News broke out recently about Disney-Marvel Studios and their plans to make a movie about Shang-Chi, a hero that is a master of kungfu, and a previous member of the Avengers. Most interestingly, he taught Spider-man the “Way of the Spider” when Spider-man lost his spidey sense. Shang-Chi’s power-set other than “kung-fu” is his duplication abilities (e.g., like Naruto’s Bunshin no Jutsu). This power-set sounds awesome, as well as it distinguish other Asian Kung-fu heroes we seen before.
In my opinion, there are some changes that are needed to be done in order to make Shang-Chi successful in portraying “Asian” as a multi-dimensional and non-stereotypical being — and as a result, shine a positive light for Asian men.
Change number 1 – A Paradigm Shift
First, scriptwriters and directors need to create some kind of paradigm shift with regards to the depiction of Asian men. A paradigm shift means:
“a fundamental change in approach or underlying assumptions” (Wikipedia)
There are many stereotypes of Asian men that are perpetuated in mainstream media. As a result, this leads many people, especially non-Asians, to assume what Asians and Asian Americans are like in terms of personality, skill set, and/or mentality.
Here are some depictions of Asians on-screen so far:
Asian men have long been perceived as less attractive and desirable (lack masculinity), awkward, and small.
Asian men are asexual hardworking nerds (e.g., sidekicks, hackers)
They are awkward kungfu masters, ninja warriors, Yakuza members that are either a clear-cut one-dimensional good guy or a bad guy with no goals, ambitions, and no reason for their actions. They are not depicted as great as white characters in similar roles: The Outsider (2018).
They are the “Mr. Miyagi’s”, the wise old Asian man who teaches the white hero to be “the saviour”
They are the foreigners (even if the actors/actresses are Asian-American) and are usually peeled of their individuality or designate these Asian characters as different from white people.
6. They are hypersexual or sexually deviant
Unless they are constantly doing it while knowing the consequences, I do not blame Asian and Asian-American actors and actresses for their past portrayals. These stereotypical roles have normalized how audiences see Asians and have long operated something for people to laugh at. A lot of people and movie studios think it is “tongue and cheek” humour when Asian characters are utilized as comedic relief, but Asian people need to be “in” with the joke. Are we really “in” on the joke?
Asian actors are stuck in a dilemma of whether they should refuse the stereotypical role or pay their bills (as well as pursuing their dreams of acting). These stereotypical roles always comes up because Asians are considered the model minority. Asian can be made fun off because they are seen as “successful” and “well-behaved” like obedient dogs, unlike other minorities (e.g., Black and Latino communities). Sorry to burst people’s bubble, but the model minority is a myth! This myth was used to unreasonably criticize the Black and Latino communities. Directors and writers need to beware of how they write Asian characters and remove these stereotypical attributes.
Also, in my opinion, it is not even genres that feature “kungfu / martial arts” that brought forth stereotypes. It is how directors and writers pick and choose how they want audiences to see Asians. The Asian roles overall in Hollywood are so one-dimensional. When the characters get killed off, the audience does not care. There is no emotional investment in Asian characters. Asian characters are often used as target practice and/or something for a white character(s) to kill. We are essentially shown as animals, and not humans (e.g., Lucy, Mission Impossible: Fallout, etc). For instance, in the movie Lucy, Lucy shot an Asian taxi driver because he did not speak English.
Hollywood somewhat started to see how impactful Asian castings are. For instance, there was a huge following after the works of Crazy Rich Asians (2018), and John Cho’s Searching (2018) in terms of box office success. However, there is still a distinct hierarchy on those who are supposed to be leads and a clear-cut difference between Asian actors in Hollywood movies versus Asian movies.
Case #1: Jackie Chan
Case #2: Chow Yun-fat
Case #3: Jet Li
Case #4: Deepika Padukone
Case #5: Lee Byung-hun
These five cases are very similar. These Asian actors are well-known and famous in their country. They are also experienced and talented actors with many movies in their resume; however, when these actors come to America for one reason or another, they continue to be portrayed as the foreigner or the outsider. Or, they play one-dimensional characters compared to their American counterparts. I know some readers will say:
“Of course, they are getting better roles in their country. Asian roles get better roles due to being in Asia. Same thing with American actors getting better roles in the US, as compared to foreign actors.”
If that was the case, why are Asian-American actors getting stereotypical roles? And why aren’t they getting juicy roles like their Caucasian American counterparts? Are Asian-Americans … not American??
Should Shang-Chi have an accent?
In my opinion, I think not. Unless they do it correctly (e.g., Black Panther). But lets face it … Hollywood loves exaggerated accents (e.g., The Simpson’s Apu, Breakfast at Tiffany’s (1961), Sixteen Candles (1984)). Shang-Chi may follow the same approach as the Russian superhero, Black Widow. In addition, most stereotypical Asian characters have accents, especially heavy exaggerated accents to distinguish themselves as “foreigners”. So, having Shang-Chi with an American or British accent might change the audience’s mindset and/or perceptions of how Asian people are like in real life (in America). Also, I do not want Shang-Chi to follow the Scarlet Witch approach (played by Elizabeth Olsen) wherein the beginning Scarlet Witch has an accent and in the Avengers: Infinity War (2018) she has an American accent. No need for inconsistency. Either the character has the accent or it doesn’t.
Should Shang-Chi’s origin story relating to his father and mother be removed?
Fu Manchu
Most definitely yes! The director and writers should reconstruct Shang-Chi’s father’s backstory, rather than an Asian evil caricature created in the early 1920’s “Yellow Peril”, which was also captured in the comics (@subjectivism – Reddit, 2019). For instance, the directors of Shangchi could model their relationship after Star War’s Luke Skywalker and Darth Vader, Game of Throne’s Tyrion Lannister and Tywin Lannister, and Tekken’s Jinpachi and Heihachi. The Marvel-Disney studio should avoid any connection to “Fu Manchu” mythos.
Shang-Chi’s mother in the comics is a white American woman, but the shocking part is: “His mother was a white American woman genetically selected by his father” (Wikipedia, 2019). I also want this to be removed in the Shang-Chi’s mythology. Asian men are emasculated in media and we do not need any horrible Asian men “stealing” white or “genetically selected” women. What about embracing a strong Asian identity and healthy relationships between Asian men and Asian women? (By the way, mainstream media has had a tendency to erase this. Examples can be found in films like: To all the boys I loved before (2018), The Last Samurai (2003), The Wolverine (2013)). A solution could be that his mother is an Asian-American woman. As a result, Shang-Chi is divided between two worlds (assimilating in Western culture and having an Eastern culture through his parents), which is more similar to what Asian Americans are facing at this moment (the struggles of assimilating, while born in America). Plus another opportunity to cast an Asian American actress, who have not received any “juicy” roles!
Please comment on the blog post below if you have any other suggestions on how to improve Shang-Chi as a character or tell me if you think some of my suggestions / opinions are wrong. I am happy to learn from you! 🙂
Recently, I was caught listening to Malcolm X’s speech about ‘Foxy White liberals’. Throughout history, politicians have used black communities as tools to garner votes. In the United States, literally one group of white politicians called the “Liberals/Democrats” have essentially used minorities to gain power or remain in power against another group of whites called the “Conservatives/Republicans”.
What is the reasoning behind the lack of Asian American actors in leading roles?
My opinion is that the movie studios have no guts to take a risk on Asian-American actors and of course systemic racism in the Entertainment industry.
Left: Jet Li, Bruce Lee, Donnie Yen & Jackie Chan
When I ask my Non-Asian friends as well as Asian friends, “Can you name some Asian actors in leading roles?”, they always say: “Jackie Chan” and “Jet Li” (occasionally Bruce Lee). It’s pretty sad and funny that all these Asian actors are associated with martial arts and nothing else. Throughout the 20th and 21st centuries, Asian men were always portrayed as “Mr. Miyagi” (wise elderly person), “kung fu masters”, “nerds”, “asexual friend” and so forth. What about Asian romantic leads, got any of those?
1. a thing that someone says to cause amusement or laughter, especially a story with a funny punchline.
2. a trick played on someone for fun.
3. a person or thing that is ridiculously inadequate.
In my opinion, I think a “joke” comes from a person who initiates, through speaking or physical behaviour, some sort of thing (e.g., slapstick) intended to be funny and amusing. If the person intended for it to be a joke, then I will recognize it as a joke, whether or not it is funny. Read More
My parents escaped from the Vietnam war. My mom took refuge in Nova Scotia, Canada, and my dad took refuge in Vancouver, Canada. They met and fell in love with each other in Canada. They travelled to Toronto to find jobs (since Vancouver lacked the job opportunities in the 80s). After they settled down and got married, they conceived my younger brother and me.
Growing up in a Vietnamese-family where my parents aren’t fluent in English was tough. I wasn’t able to express my feelings and opinions to them in a way I wanted. I spoke “Vietglish” to them. “Vietglish” is essentially talking with some English words mashed with Vietnamese words to create a coherent (but most of the time non-coherent) sentences. I never took any Vietnamese language classes like some of my friends did. I learned to speak Vietnamese by having conversations with my parents/family, as well as watching TVB shows (Hong Kong TV shows) on VHS/DVDs. I know lots of Chinese/Hong Kong people will say “Wait a minute … the actress and actors on TVB shows speak Cantonese?!”. In response, I will say: “Yes, but there were lots of Vietnamese Video Stores in Toronto that have TVB shows dubbed in Vietnamese”. The Vietnamese dub was great as the voice actors/actresses that spoke Vietnamese tried to sync their voice to the Hong Kong actor/actress’s mouths LOL!
For instance: Journey to the West (1996)
Oh man, the cheesy graphics in Journey to the West was cringy (but I still love it!). And the Vietnamese dubbed actually improved during the 2000s: https://youtu.be/xXrdy1og3JI?t=23m37s
Anyways, my Vietnamese isn’t that bad in my opinion. I volunteered as a Vietnamese interpreter at a hospital to help Vietnamese patients who do not speak any English to understand their treatment. Plus, this volunteering experience was a great way to practice my Vietnamese.
Racism
Throughout my childhood, I wasn’t physically bullied; however, I did get some racist comments from kids. For instance: “Hey, Jackie Chan!”, “Bruce Lee!”, “you have a small penis!”, “Chinky”, and so forth. In order to stop that from happening I dissed them back. For example: “If I am Jackie Chan, you’re my sidekick Chris Tucker!” – 10 years old me.
The picture on the left (2008) and Picture on the right (2016) …Trying to squeeze my bicep LOL
Before I started my undergraduate studies, I felt like I had a chip on my shoulder. I felt like I needed to re-invent myself and change from a non-confident-shy guy to being more assertive and confident, someone who didn’t give a s**t of what other people think of me! I believe I’ve accomplished that over the years (from 2008 to present); however, there are times that I still care what other people think of me (e.g., my colleagues, Wing ;)).
In-between
During my first month of undergraduate studies (2009), I joined a Vietnamese Student Association at my university to learn more about my Vietnamese culture and language. I volunteered to be their site designer and was one for a moment in time. When I went to the Vietnamese club “Meet and Greet” event, I felt isolated. Perhaps, I was not confident in speaking with strangers yet (I’m still a bit awkward during this time period). However, it was just a weird feeling. All the people in the club were mostly Vietnamese-Canadian like myself, yet I felt alone. Throughout my high school and undergrad days, I always had a diverse group of friends ranging from Filipinos, Vietnamese, Koreans, Chinese, Italians, Tibetian, African-Canadians, Indians, Sri Lankan, Caucasians and so forth, in contrast to my younger brother whose friends are mostly Vietnamese-Canadians. I felt like I didn’t fit the stereotype of Asian people hanging around with other Asian people. (And there is nothing wrong with that!) White people hang around with other white people….why isn’t that tabooed? Till this day, I believe that the reason I wasn’t comfortable with hanging out with the members of the Vietnamese Student Association was that we didn’t have anything in common in terms of interest (e.g., sports, politics, etc).
Either way, living in Toronto, Canada … I felt like I didn’t have a strong bond with my Vietnamese-Canadian community (until I reached graduate studies and started learning a little bit more about the history and the current political landscape in Vietnam). Eventually, I stopped going to the Vietnamese Student Association at my university in the middle of the first year. This was due to many factors. First, I began to realize that I had rather hang out with my university friends that I had more in common with, in terms of hobbies/interest (and even the struggles). It made me feel like I was part of a big family that cared for each other. Secondly, there was an incident during one of the first events held by the Vietnamese Student Association. We went ice skating near the waterfront, and a Vietnamese-Canadian girl randomly appeared out of nowhere and told me to my face that I couldn’t get a girl in Canada, and I should go to Vietnam to get a girlfriend. First off, I did not provoke her at all, but yet she had the audacity to say these nonsensical things to me. Secondly, that was a slap in the face to all Vietnamese girls in Vietnam. The assumption here was that Vietnamese girls born in Vietnam are not better than Vietnamese girls born in North America. I guess this particular Vietnamese-Canadian girl was projecting or something.
There was another incident with another Asian girl (not saying all Asian girls are like this) during my fourth year of undergraduate studies. I went to my friend’s birthday party at a Bier Markt in Toronto. I asked a random Asian girl on the dance floor if she would like to dance with me. In my mind, if she said “No”, it was not a big deal, since I had many successful and unsuccessful encounters with girls before (this was my fourth year of university). However, she said something that I never experienced before … she said, “Sorry, I only dance with White guys”. I was shaken for a few seconds, and on my mind, I wanted to say “F**k you, self-hating bigot!”, but I just walked back to my table. One of my male friends was looking at my interaction with this Asian girl at a distance. I felt embarrassed.
Self-hate and Internalized Racism
When I was a teenager, many of my Asian friends (including myself) have said: “I’m whitewashed”. I felt this was an example or an excuse for me to push away my culture as a kid. Today, I’m thinking about the notion of what makes people “whitewashed”? What is the criteria? I don’t think there was one.
Growing up, there were many white people who have pointed out that I was not a “typical” Asian person and I have seen other Asian-Canadians calling themselves “Whitewashed” to distinguish themselves from their Asian peers. That is totally messed up! This made me realize that my teen-self was basically that Vietnamese-Canadian girl who told me to get a girlfriend in Vietnam! We should not look down on our people, but instead, have a conversation and make friends with them! If you are an Asian-American or Asian-Canadian, go find an Asian friend who was born in Asia (vice versa), as a result, you can learn a lot from them. (Here is a good article about Internalized Racism in the Asian American Community)
Vietnamese Sizzling Crepe (Bánh Xèo)
Vietnamese Rice Paper Rolls
As a teenager, I felt ashamed to eat my own traditional Vietnamese foods (e.g., spring rolls, curry, etc) or any Asian foods (e.g., my mom’s homemade sushi and wanton) at school because there were students who hated the smell (e.g., Fish Sauce, Kim-chi). Others definitely gave me a weird stare. But heck, there were even weird stares when my mom packed me Caesar Salad with bacon bits for lunch in high school. I could never win. As an adult now, I see many non-asian people appreciate and enjoy eating Vietnamese foods (e.g., Pho, Spring Roll, etc). I don’t know how to feel about this … I’m happy that Vietnamese food is becoming popular; however, I also felt it is a slap in the face to my younger self who was ashamed of eating Vietnamese food due to weird eye stares and negative comments.
It is like the recent news about the Qipao dress twitter feud (2018). I believed the feud and hatred from the Asian-Americans weren’t about the white girl (Keziah) wearing the dress. It’s about the power dynamics, resentment, and the lack of acknowledgement of Keziah’s white privilege. If a Chinese-American girl wore the Qipao to prom (assuming she wasn’t ashamed of wearing her traditional clothes due to internalized racism and whatnot), she will have weird stares or people will see her as a foreigner, exotic and/or an “other”, instead of applauding her for wearing her traditional clothes, in which Keziah had huge support for wearing the Qipao. Unfortunately, people like Keziah who argue, “it’s just a dress” and they’re “appreciating Chinese culture”, completely undermine a video of her and her friend making fun of Asian people (Click here). I understand that Kaziah and her friend were doing a “vine meme”, but it is still offensive. It is like saying people who are doing harmful “pranks” and saying “its just a prank” is not in the wrong. I wish people or the media would talk more about why some Asian-Americans defended Keziah. That would be wonderful research to think about.
Asian men and Asian woman dynamics
I heard about “Yellow Fever” through a video that Wong Fu made a long time ago, but I also believe there is “White Fever” in North America as well as the rest of the world. Not just because of the incident I had in the Bier Markt during my undergrad, but also the “eye-test” and articles talking about this phenomenon. The surge in White Male Asian Female (WMAF) relationships are no longer a rare thing, but it is a common occurrence or a phenomenon (Reference: 54% of Asian American marry out, the vast majority to white men only). I support interracial relationship, however, I do mind the mental gymnastics behind the reasoning why girls, especially Asian girls, are not dating Asian men. The most common thing I heard from girls were “You are cute for an Asian guy” or “I don’t like dating Asian guys, it is like dating my brother/cousin”.
I hate doing “Oppression Olympics”, but I felt Asian guys have always been “sh*ted” on in the mainstream media. That is why I posted an Online dating blog post to bring confidence in guys, especially Asian guys. The only movies growing up that I’ve seen an Asian-American characters being a normal or cool/kickass were in Mortal Kombat (1995) – Liu Kang played by Robin Shou and Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle (2004)– Harold and Kumar played by John Cho and Kal Penn respectively, which is pretty sad and depressing when you think about it. I tried my best to look for movies I’ve seen a long time ago (the 90s) that portrayed Asian men in a positive light (List of movies that have “Asian-American” characters). I see nothing. However, I recently saw Columbus (2017), and it was great! I never thought would I care about architecture.
We need more Asian-American/Asian-Canadian actors, Asian-American directors, Asian studio producer/CEO and most importantly support from Asian American and POC communities to fight against Hollywood’s racism and their absurd excuses (some of these excuses are posted here).
Division amongst Asian-American communities
Issues about Asian and Asian American/Canadian in the mainstream media are very complex. I believe we are a divided community. For instance:
There is contention over who can play what character depending on ethnicity. However, I think that Asian actors can play ANY Asian characters. Here are some examples of what I meant by it: a Chinese-
Dong Nguyen – Vietnamese character in Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt played by a Korean-American actor: Ki Hong Lee
American actor can play a Japanese’s emperor in 1800s, a Vietnamese-Canadian can play a Korean-American on a tv-show, if there is a remake for Ghost in the Shell, the main character can be played by a Chinese, Korean, Vietnamese, or Thai actress and not just only Japanese actresses. There are a small number of Asian roles/characters being made, we shouldn’t be fighting over these things. If Robert Downey Jr. (American actor) can play Sherlock Holmes and Henry Cavill (British actor) can play Superman, why can’t Asian actors play a different Asian? If we are fighting with each other on this type of issue, there will be slow changes in Hollywood and the studios will use this as an excuse. (Don’t let them divide us!)
Asian-American celebrities with “power” and privilege have undermined Asian-American struggles (A weapon for racist people). Take, for example, Esther Ku, “a comedian” who has mostly been using old stereotypical Asian jokes for her standup over and over again. The differences between Ali Wong (a comedian) and Esther Ku is that Ali Wong’s jokes break Asian stereotypes while Esther Ku perpetuate Asian stereotypes
Another celebrity that perpetuates stereotypes that the Asian-American community kept mentioning on subreddit, Asian-American blogs, podcast and Facebook is Ken Jeong, a Korean American actor. There are lots of people who think that Ken Jeong is essentially a jester/clown for white audiences, which reflect poorly on Asian-Americans. Ken Jeong’s habit of playing caricatures brings a negative light on Asian representation, especially for Asian men. For example, in the second installment of the Hangover franchise, Ken Jeong’s character – Mr. Chow had a monkey licking his penis while he was ODed (Interview). -Sigh- I’m a bit conflicted, he was pretty funny as Señor Ben Chang on the Community (2009); however, I understand that playing the same old stereotypical character (Mr. Chow, Long Duk Dong) over and over again for many years can lead to detrimental results on young Asian men. That is why Donnie Yen, John Cho, and many other actors vowed not to take stereotypical roles.
TV shows like the BBC’s Chinese Burn (2018) perpetuate Asian stereotypes. It is ironic that this show was trying to go against Asian stereotypes, but instead, works to reinforce it! For example, the portrayal of Asian men as bigoted and impotent is damaging! Another example: one of the main characters said: “You sympathy fucker, there is no way I can touch that thing, I don’t do Chinese”. The Asian community responded on Twitter, and Facebook of their displeasure; however, the BBC Chinese Burn team removed the comments on their Facebook/Twitter page (Reference: NextShark, HKFP).
3. The lack of acknowledgement/discussion about “White men and Asian Female” power dynamics (e.g., Asian women and the alt-right: Link 1, Link 2, Link 3), could affect the Asian-American community as a whole. For instance, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before (2018), The Last Samurai (2003),Dragonball Evolution (2009), The Social Network (2010), Full Metal Jacket (1987) and other movies/tv shows brings forth an idea that Asian women needs and/or worships white men. Heck, most of these movies (and even tv shows) do not even pass the Bechdel test, which is a tool to evaluate the portrayal of women in fictional stories (e.g., movies, tv shows, novels). These stereotypes of Asian women being white worshipping, prostitutes, and/or dragon ladies can cause huge problems such as sexual harassment and violence (Rachel Kuo – Huffpost Contributor, 2017).
Another issue is internalized racism in the Asian-American community. Natalie Tran, a famous Youtuber, once said she felt ugly in comparison to white women (Reference). Also, some Asian-American who are the self-proclaimed feminists, and/or doing virtual signalling/lip service unconsciously treat Asian men horribly, which is hypocritical (Here is an example of Asian-woman empowerment, yet discrimination against their male counterpart: Cassandra Lam). It is sad and depressing because there are many Asian women that feel the same way (Gina Choe (Model), Jenny An, Esther Ku, Lily Macapinlac (Model), Link 1, Link 2). If Asian women don’t like their “Asian” appearance, I wonder what Asian women think about their male counterparts? It is kind of scary if you think about it. For instance, what would the interaction be, between the mother and her son (mixed/hapa)? or even worse what their son or daughter, who is mixed, think of non-mixed Asians? (e.g., 2014 Isla Vista massacre: Link 1, Link 2). (To note: If readers know any examples of Asian men (e.g., celebrities, comedians, etc) having internalized racism and/or oppressing the Asian-American communities please comment below)
Sessue Hayakawa, 1918
In addition, there is a lack of Asian-American men and Asian-American women relationship in American media. Heck, Asian men are not seen as romantic leads to any women and gay men. They become desexualized and emasculated in mainstream media. The sad thing is that there was a time when Asian actors were sexy. Sessue Hayakawa, a Japanese-actor, was the first Hollywood sex symbol (Evelyn Wang, 2016).In summary, we need more strong three-dimensional female and male Asian characters in order to remove these horrible stereotypes that we were cursed with for centuries.
Here are some interesting resources to read/listen about Asian-American issues:
I went online (e.g., youtube comments, twitter comments, articles) to see everyone’s point of view and arguments about the whitewashing as well as gender-washing controversies focusing on Scarlett Johansson.
Please comment below, for instance, do I miss anything in terms of arguments from either side (e.g., Studio, Asian American Community, Scarlett’s Supports, LGBTQ Community)?
I have noticed Wing’s curiosity about the topic of “sex” and we sometimes debated on topics related to sex (e.g., Are strip clubs good? What would you do if your 21-year-old son/daughter becomes a porn actor/actress?).
Photo by mali maeder on Pexels.com
So, what are your thoughts on “pornography” and “porn industry”?
Nguyen: I am for pornography. Pornography shouldn’t be a taboo. There are people who think porn is bad due to the objectification of women. However, sexuality and sexualization are two different words! Sexuality involves what makes you feel good and what attract to you. Sexualization is when an individual is objectified. I think our society has been using these two words interchangeably. I believe pornography is more about helping an individual explore their sexuality. Also, I consider myself a feminist (equality and equity for everyone). If an individual wants to pursue a career in the adult entertainment business, why would I ruin their dream job/hobby? If they know the consequences / risk in being part of the porn industry, why would I care what they do to their bodies? It is their life as well as their happiness. The porn industry regulates and inspects performers’ health before doing any sexual activities. I believe it is great to have many options to explore our sexuality or sexual fantasies. My point of view derives from living in a secular world where “sex positivity” as well as women’s rights are inserted in today’s society or ingrained in people’s minds.
However, I do acknowledge that there is an issue with pornography. For instance, if an individual was forced or had “no” choice/option but to pursue a pornstar career then we as a community need to find a solution to help this individual. In addition, there are different types of “Pornography” ranging from softcore to hardcore. It could be a problem for young and impressionable individuals. According to Walt Mueller, the average age to begin exposure to porn is around 11 years old (Mueller, 2013). Therefore, it may be dangerous for 11-year-old adolescents that may not understand or perhaps confuse about “sex” when watching different types of pornography.
Wing: For me, I still have a lot of mixed feelings about pornography. I was brought up in a Christian home and still uphold Christian values. For most of my life, I was taught to think that pornography is bad, shameful, and immoral. This is because sex and all sexual acts should remain within the sanctity of marriage. Also, we are taught that our bodies are holy temples of God and that engaging in sexual acts, prematurely or outside the marriage relationship, is to defile the body. Watching pornography can also lead one astray and to having sinful thoughts about other people’s bodies.
For me, I still have a very complicated relationship with pornography. Working as a sexual health information consultant at my university has helped to change my perspectives on pornography, but I still struggle to accept it personally. Professionally, I believe the legalization of and free access to porn wonderful catalysts for a more sex-positive society. I believe that we should live in an environment that is sex-positive and that no one is ashamed of their sexuality or sexual desires. I think pornography can be liberating in that it can teach us how to use our bodies to find pleasure and it can help us express ourselves beyond the imaginations of the gender binary.
However, personally, I can’t help but cringe or feel guilty when I am exposed to pornography. Don’t get me wrong, my sex drive is normal (?). But despite the sexual politics that I advocate for, I can’t bring myself to accept pornography personally. If I watch it, I feel dirty. I think it’s because I have very deep-rooted values in my faith. I do believe in the sanctity of marriage and the role of sex in it. I do believe in being exclusive and I would be devastated if my partner preferred pornography over myself. I acknowledge that much of this paragraph is not so much a response to porn as it is to the values I hold in religion. I’ve yet to debunk this and will gladly update the blog when I do.